Monthly Archives: December 2012



I’m with my family driving back from Christmas with my wife’s parents and it occurs to me that our beloved Redskins are playing arch rival Dallas Cowboys in Sunday night football tonight in what is essentially a playoff game for the division title. We should be home in plenty of time to unpack, pick up the dog and even do the laundry and get other household chores done before kickoff. And, given that the kids don’t return to school till a week from tomorrow, and that they’ve been up late for the last week, and that they will surely stay up a little late tomorrow night for New Year’s Eve, I figure it’s a no-brainer that my wife will agree that it’s okay for my older son to stay up late tonight for the first half of the game.

Fortunately, my instinct to spend time with my son is followed by my instinct to check with my wife to see if she’s okay with him staying up a little late to watch the first half of the game. That should help my marriage relationship and also model the right behavior. This is all going to be great. For a second, I’m proud of the fact that I’ve worked all this out in my head and am being the right kind of husband, father and generally pretty good human being (despite we’re missing church due to the drive home).

But I only got it half right at best, because when this all occurred to me, what I chose to do is grab my phone to get this down as a blog entry, prioritizing that over talking it through with her first. (Part of an effort to actually blog more often than once a quarter.) So I’ll hit submit now (and get the blog entry!) and then immediately talk it through with her and let you know in a blog entry tomorrow how it ended up. As a leadership principle, clearly it is more important that she and I are aligned and have a “united front” before declaring any individual positions in front of the kids. Stay tuned…

Is it okay I’m blogging this play-by-play of my most private relationship? Is this transparency/authenticity or gratuitous?


How Commercial Was Your Christmas

As we are all soon emerging from a great year end break, I am mindful of how sometimes even with the best of intentions we can sometimes tend to over commercialize Christmas. Maybe it’s those cute whatevers we thoughtfully bought for our kids or friends… Or that too-good-to-pass-up “doorbuster” deal that positioned how much we saved instead of how much we spent… Or the money we spent on crass lights and the electricity that powers them (which we maybe could have given to a charity?)…

Not to be a Scrooge, but before we leave another Christmas behind and get back to the grind, I thought it might be nice to reflect on the wisdom Charlie’s friend Linus shares.

Any favorite traditions you used this year (or wished you did) to “keep it real” this Christmas?

Oh Holy Night


Sometimes it’s nice to not sing lyrics but rather read, ponder or meditate upon them…

O Holy Night, The stars are brightly shining,
It is the night of the dear Saviour’s birth.
Long lay the world in sin and error pining.
Till He appeared and the Spirit felt its worth.
A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices,
For yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.
Fall on your knees! Oh, hear the angel voices!
O night divine, the night when Christ was born;
O night, O Holy Night , O night divine!
O night, O Holy Night , O night divine!

Led by the light of faith serenely beaming,
With glowing hearts by His cradle we stand.
O’er the world a star is sweetly gleaming,
Now come the wisemen from out of the Orient land.
The King of kings lay thus lowly manger;
In all our trials born to be our friends.
He knows our need, our weakness is no stranger,
Behold your King! Before him lowly bend!
Behold your King! Before him lowly bend!

Truly He taught us to love one another,
His law is love and His gospel is peace.
Chains he shall break, for the slave is our brother.
And in his name all oppression shall cease.
Sweet hymns of joy in grateful chorus raise we,
With all our hearts we praise His holy name.
Christ is the Lord! Then ever, ever praise we,
His power and glory ever more proclaim!
His power and glory ever more proclaim!